Are you someone who listens to your gut? How in tune are you to your nervous system and how someone makes you feel? Are you paying attention to the way your body reacts to them? Or is the lure of submission so strong that you’re shapeshifting to get them to want you?
I remember a coffee date I had with someone who knew of my desire to be submissive. Something about this guy told me to be wary. I couldn’t keep myself from thinking that he’d have me restrained, be taking me from behind and would remove the condom. It may not have been an accurate sense but I wasn’t going to take any chances. He just seemed too pushy.
I left the coffee date saying thanks but no thanks. This was many years into dating as a submissive. I was finally getting in touch with my gut again.
Finding a Dom who is right for you, requires patience. The time it takes is also an opportunity to discover more about yourself and what you want out of a D/s. It also gives you time to cultivate your own sense of worthiness.
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