Just in case you’re wondering if it’s possible, or acceptable, to envision what kind of D/s you’d like to have in the future…
Absol- fucking- utely!!!!!
If you are on the right side of the slash- the submissive- you might get twisted into thinking that you HAVE to abide by everything a dom wants. Let’s disabuse you of that right now!
If you are single, and desiring to be submissive in a D/s dynamic, it is actually beneficial for you and for any potential dom for you to get clear on what you want. It doesn’t mean that you have to know everything about what you want but it means that you have an opportunity while not in relationship to get curious about what you want.
I have one prompt for you to begin with:
How do you want to FEEL in a D/s?
This works for both D and s but for s-types it’s easier to push off contemplating what they want and how they want to feel.
So, take some time and chew on this question. Start a journal, make a voice memo for yourself, make a declaration on your profile.
You can have desires, wants, needs and limits. It is crucial for a successful D/s for you to have them. Get busy now while you have the time and space to get curious about yourself. You have permission!
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