About CJ

Certified Sex Coach

Certified Life Coach

Professional Cuddler

Kinky, Queer, Non-monogamous Mentor helping you feel the fun and pleasure you deserve.

Hi, I’m CJ. I want to share what brings me to sex coaching and mentoring. At age 44 I separated from my husband and the father of my kids. We had both come to the place where we knew it was time to separate. One of our mismatches was intimacy. I looked forward to enjoying what time I thought I had left of my libido. Fast forward to today… IT’S STILL HERE!

After lots of dating disappointments and struggles, I finally met the person I had been searching for. I HAVE the relationship dynamic I always dreamed of. Every day I am grateful for the person I have become and for the person I am with. We give so much to one another and it has opened my eyes to countless possibilities. However, we did have many challenges to overcome, including seven years of maintaining a long-distance relationship! But we did it. We kept our spark alive, because we knew we had so much more to explore together going forward. It all comes down to serving each other. Are we being the best partner we can to one another? I have a service kink, and when someone appreciates that AND gives so much to me, I feel pretty damned lucky!

Here’s what I want you to know:  THIS KIND OF JOY CAN BE YOURS!  You are worthy of your desires. Don’t let shame tell you otherwise. Tell that negative, little bitch to take a walk. I became a coach and mentor because of my struggles and explorations, all of which led me to where I am today. For example, being a phone sex operator informed me in ways that led to my work as a coach. My longing to take my phone sex clients out of the fantasy and into reality largely inspired me to help people on a more meaningful level. I deeply believe that we are ALL deserving of amazing, connected sexual experiences where we can be authentically ourselves. Sometimes we need to be vulnerable and share who we are with our current partners so they can opt in to our needs. Or maybe we need to know that there is someone out there who will match our desires, our kinks, our needs. You might think you’re some kind of freaky person all alone in the world, but you are NOT! There’s always someone out there who wants to be with you.

If you’re ready to embark on this journey, I’m here for you. I bring my experience to bear when appropriate, but the real work is your own personal journey. Getting down to what YOU want, and building your confidence and conviction, is what moves you towards your goals. I want to be with you on your journey; to be your lighthouse; your confidant; your brainstorming partner; your role player; your sounding board; your person to help hold you accountable to yourself. Let’s get busy getting you the things you want, because we all deserve fun, pleasure, and hot as hell sex!

  • Freedom 100% 100%
  • Exploration 100% 100%
  • Confidence 100% 100%
  • Excitement 100% 100%
  • Shame 0% 0%

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